Guided By Grace Blog

Worthy of the Wrestle

It was mid-December when I quickly clicked the button and selected seats for the book tour I’d been waiting for.   This messenger’s psychological and neurobiological approach to the primary story that defined my identity has opened portals of healing since 2017 when I first found his lectures on Genesis.  I’m...

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Feeling Worthy

“The Sphinxes’ eyes stay closed until someone who does not feel his own worth tries to pass by.” ~ Engywook, Neverending Story ~ What the…? I sat up on the couch and grabbed the remote to rewind the scene I’d watched a dozen times since I was little… and never really heard…...

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Obsess Much? Maybe this is why…

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." ~ Carl G. Jung Exhausted to my core after a long week of disrupted sleep and fighting a bug, and working to close out some giant projects on time, I stepped out of...

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Goodbye, Resolutions. Hello, Magic Mirror!

Dumbledore: "Back again, Harry? I see that you, like so many before you, have discovered the delights of the Mirror of Erised. I trust by now you realize what it does. Let me give you a clue. The happiest man on earth would look into the mirror and see only...

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Goodbye, Toxic Marketing. Hello, Human!

"We repeat what we don't repair." Harris III, The Wonder Switch "Grrrrr…" I'm pretty sure that was the sound I made as I flung my office door open and startled my son, who was just trying to walk down the hallway in peace. "Uh oh, what happened?" he asked, halting his...

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Escape or Sacred Instinct

In the last few weeks, I’ve lost count of the number of times I have heard or read content that equates Netflix binges with numbing substances such as alcohol and drugs, or behaviors such as promiscuous sex or self-harm. It’s just being included in lists as one of the many...

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The Thing About Freedom

"Sons of Gondor! Of Rohan! My brothers. I see in your eyes the same fear that would take the heart of me. A day may come when the courage of Men fails, when we forsake our friends and break all bonds of fellowship, but it is not this day. An...

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Intuition Isn’t Enough

Intuition Isn’t Enough “Be curious, not judgmental.” Ted Lasso I clicked “End Meeting,” flopped back in my chair, and let out a little scream. Loud enough to release the pressure, but not so loud that everyone in the house would come running. I needed time to myself to sort out what...

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“It’s not something you earn…”

"The brand isn't something you earn, it's something you live up to." ~ John Dutton, Yellowstone ~ The words slapped me in the face, and their impact reverberated through every cell. I had to pause, rewind, rewatch, repeat, and then eventually write it down. If you've seen the show, you know that the...

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3 Tonics for 2022

I know y’all are probably kinda busy right now, so I’m gonna make this short. As I reflect on all that has transpired this year, there are a few major themes that stand out [okay, they slapped me in the face!] that I offer here in hopes they act like a shortcut...

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The Gift that Keeps On Giving

If I asked you to tell me your story,what would you tell me? Would it be a comedy or a tragedy?Would it be a tale with themes of:abuse, achievement, addiction, adventure, anxiety, betrayal, bullying, confusion, depression, evolution, fear, gratitude, healing, indignation, inspiration, joy, kismet, loss, love, meaning, neglect, overcoming, pain, pleasure, questioning, romance,...

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A Gratitude Game :)

“What are you most grateful for this year?” If you are a human who’s been living on this planet for the last 18 months, your answer to this question might not come quickly or easily… or at all. Maybe you have lost a loved one. Maybe you have survived a...

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Disappearing Acts and The Creative Process

So… I’m going to speak to the elephant in the room first… I’m sure you’ve noticed that there are stretches of time where I’m deeply inspired and writing and sharing and inviting regularly… And then there are stretches of time where I’m really quiet and committing the cardinal sin of...

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Stress Counting vs. Time Warping

Wow. Six weeks. Where did it go? Ever feel like you're on a roll with a project, and then a plot twist appears to take you far away from that path that felt like the right one? A relationship rupture.A financial fall-out.A health crisis.Or…I see this all the time with...

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Grounded By Grace

We’ve seen this series so many times before that I only half-watched most of the episodes while playing Words with Friends with my mom. But last night, the quiet voice inside said, “Put your phone down for this one.” Curiously, I had missed the title of it, “The Calling,” by...

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Waking Up in The Matrix – Part 4 | How do you know what's true?

“All men are not created equal,” she stated matter-of-factly. “Umm… what do you mean?” I asked while consciously fixing my fallen jaw and wide eyes before she looked back at me. “Well, people are not the same…” she started. “They have varying personalities, levels of intelligence and capacity, moral compasses...

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Waking Up in The Matrix – Part 3 | Glitches + Wakeup Calls

Less than an hour into my shift, and I was already beside myself with frustration. The mask reducing my oxygen intake, making my chest constrict and heart race. This can’t be healthy! The clear, hard plastic wall between me and the customers. It’s more of a barrier for human connection...

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Waking Up in The Matrix – Part 2 | How It Happens

Note: The first half of this blog might seem repetitive and annoying, but I encourage you to read it all.  “Hi there, how are you today?” I ask as I reach for the first item to scan. “I’m pretty good. How about you?” she asks as she piles her items...

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Waking Up in The Matrix – Part 1 | The Story

“Amanda,” she started and then took a deep breath. “You know how you’ve been saying that something isn’t right, but you can’t put your finger on what it is?” I was so exhausted, all I could do was nod and stare straight ahead through the windshield of the SUV, into...

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Giving the Mind a Mission

“I just give that part of me a JOB. They are in charge of…” One of my cherished mentors proceeded to list all of the tasks and activities she’d delegated to her Ego: wardrobe, hair, makeup, etc. My sides nearly split with laughter, but I was so grateful for that...

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Getting Present to L❤️VE

"How was it in here this morning?" I asked the top dog at the grocery store, who happens to be one of the most awesome leaders I've ever met. Top 10 for sure. "Honestly," he started, his eyes misting, "I was pretty teary-eyed that first hour. The seniors were really...

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What if we replaced "Stay Safe" with "Stay Grounded"?

I can’t count the number of times someone told me to “Stay Safe” as we were finishing our interaction at the register or somewhere else in the store. They struck me funny, as they were usually preceded with episodes of forgotten phones and wallets, dropping items on the floor, etc....

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Happy New Year + A Heavy Dose of Co-Author Love

“You know what’s great about this show?” my teenager started as I wiped my tears. “It’s the only show that I’ve seen that assumes that life happens FOR us, not TO us.” We’d just finished the season finale of “God Friended Me,” and despite the somewhat cheesy lines and overcooked...

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Power + Control in The Middle

“Amanda, how are you?” he asked in his thick Colombian accent. “I’m well,” I responded and glanced up to smile at him before continuing my task of cleaning the café counter that had been destroyed by the dinner rush. “You look tired, Amanda. Is today your Friday?” His voice was...

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Meaning in The Middle

I was on the phone with an old friend who had known me for a long time and witnessed my passion and capacity for helping messengers. “How long do you think will you have to work there?” he asked after I told him I had a part-time job at Whole...

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Stuck in The Middle

With True to Intention, I am blessed to work with messengers—visionaries who have developed solutions to massive problems in the world. These are not simple “how-to” folks. These are big picture, “we have to change this paradigm or there will some serious consequences” folks. These messages are elixirs they have...

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The First Step into The Middle

It was almost time to go home. My feet hurt. My back was ready for me to call it a day. Making change was becoming stupidly challenging. Come on, Amanda—just another twenty minutes. I glanced up at the last-minute-shopper line forming and forced a sleepy smile. “Hello, how are you...

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Are you in The Middle?

It was early July 2018 and time to write my book, Upside-Down Messenger. I’d told the world that it would be out in September, and my deadline for completing the manuscript was fast-approaching. But I was stuck. Sit down. Type a few words. Get stuck. Leave the office. Repeat. What is...

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"I better not get arrested!"

“Do you have Prime?” I asked the smiling young woman on the other side of my register. “My husband does. His phone number is…” Her voice trailed off and I glanced up to see her eyes scanning her brain for the numbers. I smiled to myself and put the last...

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"All Love Needs is YOU"

It was the day after Thanksgiving when I first noticed the magnet on the register at Whole Foods. My heart resonated a loud YES, while my mind offered a quiet HMMMM. Noticing a customer coming toward me, I waved at my register to indicate it was open, took my position, and got...

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Closing the Loop on a Looping St*ry

“Oh man! How did I miss that?” I put the tv remote down a little too hard for dramatic effect. “There were a whole bunch of foreshadows, and I still missed it! My story-ometer is off. Must be the gross amounts of sugar…” They both laughed at my dramatic display...

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Holy Gratitude

I wish you could have seen me yesterday about 4:30pm. In the middle of Whole Foods — the hot bar section specifically — waiting for my pizza to come out of the oven. Reviewing the dozens of posts/comments and emails that came in all day long. Smiling. Glowing with gratitude....

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Legacy and The Launch

Six years ago today, I received my last email from Ruben. “I love it! This was the perfect way to end this story! Thank you, Amanda!” I sat back in my chair and cried at the legacy this man left and the powerful way we had decided to conclude his...

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Surrender, The Launch, and Disappearing Discounts

Two days from now, Upside-Down Messenger: Making the Magical and Messy Journey from Inspiration to Impact is going to launch.It has been quite the adventure. Fourteen months of this particular journey from inspiration to impact. Five years of intensive work to heal and rewire the st*ries that would have undermined all of...

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Hope, The Launch, and $4,000 in Disappearing Discounts

Last week, I sat in a room with more than a dozen college students and watched one of my clients share her message with them. As I listened to them discuss the challenges they face in today’s cultural climate, I thought back to this era of my life and winced....

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The question Ruben gifted me…

It was September 2012 when I declared that I would write Upside-Down Mommy and launch it as an Amazon Bestseller in six months, and it took me three long weeks to create the content strategy—the arc of the campaign and then all of the details of marketing the campaign and...

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Integration + REAL Impact

“Amanda, this book is so powerful. AND… you’re still not claiming the truest part of you and your work. Don’t worry. I’m not going to let you publish until you do it.” A potent cocktail of anger and panic coursed through my body as I read her early morning text,...

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Feeling hedged in by your title or revenue model?

“You’re not a f****ng book coach!” Her voice was shrill with frustration. I almost spit the coffee out of my mouth. This lady hardly ever raises her voice or curses, and yet this topic warranted both. While I listened to her share who she has experienced me to be, in...

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Let It Go, But Not Like This

So, my son regularly rolled his eyes at me as a kid, every time I asked him, “Hey, what do you think the message of that movie/song was?” Or when I asked him to stretch a bit further and imagine what someone would do if they believed and acted on...

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Messenger Tradeoffs

On my Facebook page this week, I shared a precious video and how the beautiful picture that my client, Torey, captured of her husband and two children proudly holding her galley copies of her new book No Big Deal brought tears to my eyes and reminded me of an interview I...

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Cleaning Up Your Backst*ry: "When is 'healed enough'?"

I smiled as I read her email, imagining her pumping pompoms in the air as she cheered my “Words Matter…So Don’t Splatter…” blog, and reflected on how she’s been focused on healing the backst*ry instead of writing. And then came her very important question:  “When is ‘healed enough’?” Over the last...

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Words Matter… So Don't Splatter…

Warning: Please avoid liquids while reading. I’ve started this blog a dozen-plus times…on paper. And lost count of how many times I’ve re-developed it…in my mind. The other morning, I woke up trembling… With the message literally buzzing to be released from my fingertips. I wrote it all out and had...

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